Tuesday, February 19, 2013

RELATIONSHIP REFEREE

"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires."  (James 1:19-20)

Like a relationship referee, James steps in and gives ground rules for conflict in our relationships.

RULE #1 - CHOOSE TO LISTEN CAREFULLY

James said, "Everyone should be quick to listen."  Listening may be the greatest way to communicate love to another person.  When we listen we are showing that person we value them.

This is tough for guys.  Especially when your wife is talking to you while you are watching Sports Center.  (Completely "hypothetical" situation.)

But how much better would your relationships be if you choose to listen carefully when the other person is speaking?  And what would happen if you actually listened to their words, then adjusted your behavior in a desire to be a blessing to them?

I think it's safe to say your relationship would improve dramatically.

If you want to let someone know you love them, choose to listen carefully.

RULE #2 - CHOOSE TO SPEAK CAREFULLY

James said, "Everyone should be slow to speak."  It is always a good practice to pause, especially when you're in an argument, and ask if the words you want to say are the words you should say.

Solomon, a guy who had 700 wives and probably knew a little about this, said in Proverbs 21:23, "Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity."

When we find ourselves in an argument, slow down and focus on the words you want to say.  Ask if they should be said.  Maybe they do need to be said, but ask yourself if now is the best time?

Life is too short to fight with one another.  Let's learn to fight FOR one another.

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