I apologize that I cannot remember who said this originally, but I agree with this great leadership quote:
"A great leader can step on your toes without taking your shine off."
One of the most difficult tasks of leadership is to confront people. Any time you are working with people, there will be the need to do this. That's an unfortunate reality of leadership. But a good leader does not want to crush the person's spirit. Rather, a good leader wants to confront the person they are leading because it is the best thing for them.
2 Timothy 3:16 - 17 gives us a framework for how to use God's Word to "step on toes without taking the shine away."
The verses say: "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work."
God's Word is used to TEACH. We teach people the right path. We instruct others on how God wants us to live.
We use God's Word to REBUKE when someone has gotten off the right path. To rebuke someone is not to show them that you are right and they are wrong; rather, it is a time to lovingly show someone how they have veered away from the right path.
We then use God's Word to CORRECT them. We correct them by telling them how to get back on the right path.
Then we use God's Word to TRAIN them how to stay on the right path.
When these four steps are taken, the people will continue serving God because they are equipped to do so. At least that was the Apostle Paul's conclusion at the end of verse 17.
If we can use this formula:
Teach - "Here is the path."
Rebuke - "You've stepped off the path."
Correct - "Here's how to get back on the path."
Train - "Here's how to stay on the path."
Then people will be better equipped to serve because they will have had their toes stepped on without losing their shine.